Cute things to say to your boyfriend, for every moment

Cute things to say to your boyfriend in the morning

A morning message works because it's the first thing he reads before work, the news and everyone else. Keep it short enough to read with one eye open. For more, sorted by the kind of morning he's having, see our good morning messages for him. Writing for her instead? Our post on good morning messages for her has a set of its own.

• "Morning. I already miss you, even the version who steals all the blankets."
• "Good morning. Drink some water, eat something that isn't coffee, and know I'm proud of you."
• "Woke up and you were the first thing I thought about. The second was coffee. Don't let it go to your head."
• "I put your mug next to mine so the kitchen looks like you're here. Call me tonight?"
• "You looked so peaceful asleep that I let you keep my side of the bed. You're welcome."
• "Have a good day. Send me something stupid at lunch."

What to say before his big day

An interview, an exam, a match, a hard conversation with his family. Send it the night before or an hour before, not two minutes before, when he's already switched his phone off.

• "You've prepared for this more than anyone in that room. Go and be annoyingly good at it."
• "Whatever happens at ten, I'll be there at six with food."
• "Nervous is fine. It means you care. You'll still be great."
• "I've seen you do harder things on less sleep."
• "Text me the second you're out. I'm keeping my phone face up all day."

What to say when he's had a bad day

This is where most lists go wrong: a bad day doesn't need a compliment, it needs company. Ask what he wants before you try to fix anything.

• "Do you want advice, a distraction or me just being angry on your behalf? I can do all three."
• "Come home. I'll order the food, you pick the film, nobody mentions today."
• "You don't have to be fine with me."
• "It was a bad day, not a bad you."
• "I'm not going anywhere when you're grumpy. If anything I stay for the entertainment."
• "Call me when you can. Tonight I'm busy for everyone but you."

Cute things to text your boyfriend for no reason

The middle of an ordinary afternoon is when a message surprises him most. For ones that say what reminded you of him, see our thinking of you messages for him. The ones below need no excuse:

• "Nothing happened. I just like you a ridiculous amount."
• "Saw a dog that looked exactly like you when you've just woken up. Thought you should know."
• "I was telling someone about you today and caught myself grinning like an idiot."
• "Reminder that you're my favourite person, and also that it's your turn to buy milk."
• "I love the way you say my name when you're half asleep."
• "Quick question: how are you this attractive on a Tuesday?"
• "I'm proud of you. No reason. Just in general."
• "I still get a bit excited when your name lights up my phone."

Sweet compliments and thank-yous to tell him

Compliments are the easy part, and most could be about anyone. Praise something he does or chose, not only how he looks, and thank him for the small things he thinks you didn't notice.

• "You were so good with my nervous friend tonight. I watched you do it."
• "Thank you for filling up the car without saying anything. I noticed."
• "I love how patient you are with your grandmother on the phone."
• "That shirt. Wear it more."
• "I trust you completely, and I don't say that about many people."

Funny things to say to your boyfriend

Cute and funny aren't opposites. If the two of you show love by teasing, a joke can say more than a declaration.

• "I love you more than I love sleeping in, and you know how much I love sleeping in."
• "You're the only person I'd give my last slice of pizza to. Don't ask me to prove it."
• "I've decided you're stuck with me. There's no returns policy."
• "I told my sister you're funny. Please don't make me a liar at dinner on Sunday."
• "You're lucky you're cute, because the way you load the dishwasher is a crime."
• "Thinking about you. Also about lunch. But mostly you."

Cute things to say to your boyfriend in person

Some things are better said than typed. These are short enough to say without rehearsing, and they mean more in his ear than on his screen.

• Quietly, at a party: "You're the best-looking person here, and I'm going home with you."
• After he cooks: "Thank you for dinner. And for singing badly while you made it."
• Out of nowhere, on the sofa: "I'd still pick you."

What to say to your boyfriend after a fight

Cute isn't the point here, and a joke too early can sound like you're brushing it off. Say something that's true and leaves a door open. For the bigger ones, our guide on how to apologize to your boyfriend walks through what to say, and our apology page has more on what to write.

• "I'm still annoyed, and I still love you. Both are true."
• "I'm sorry I said that. I didn't mean it, and I should have stopped before I did."
• "Can we start this conversation again? I'll go first."
• "I'd rather be on the same side than be right."
• "Let's talk tonight. Not to win, just to fix it."

Cute goodnight messages for him

• "Goodnight. Thank you for today, even the boring bits."
• "I hope you dream about something better than your inbox."
• "Sleep well. Tomorrow's me will text you first."
• "The bed's too big without you in it."
• "Night. I love you. Charge your phone."

When he's far away

Messages carry more weight across a distance, so make them about him and the two of you rather than about how far apart you are. Our long-distance birthday plan works on the same rule.

• "I just booked the tickets. Start counting."
• "Left you a voice note so you don't forget what I sound like."
• "Your hoodie still smells like you. I'm not giving it back."
• "It's three in the afternoon here and I'm already thinking about our call."
• "I added your city to my weather app. It's raining there. Take an umbrella."

How to make any of these sound like you

A borrowed line is fine. A borrowed line with one detail from your life is better, and it takes ten seconds:

• Use his words, not a card's. If you never say "babe", don't start in a text.
• Say it at the moment it's about. A good-luck message after the interview is just a nice message.
• Don't stack them. One line, then let him answer. Five in a row reads like a list you found online.

How to keep the best ones

The lines that work get lost in the scroll. Make a shared photo album of screenshots, or save the best ones and give them back to him all at once on a day that matters. For a whole list of what you love about him, our 100 reasons why I love you has the method.

Both are premium; The Letter is free, if you'd rather put your favourite lines in one letter. You'll find more digital gifts for your boyfriend alongside them, and every one opens on his phone from a link.